In my almost 23 years of life, I have made a lot of mistakes. Some are cringeworthy, some are funny, and some are just downright awful. A short list includes:
-Angrily tweeting when a friend didn’t pick me as a bridesmaid. That was really uncool and pretty selfish of me.
-Drunkenly telling my best friend since seventh grade that we probably wouldn’t be friends after college (we talk every single day.)
-Deciding it would be a smart/wise idea to engage in an romantic “thing” with a coworker. Spoiler alert: it did not end well.
But I have, like you I’m sure, made some very wise decisions in my short years of life. I’ve decided to compile this list in hopes it might inspire you. (Or maybe I can just look at it at moments when I feel like I don’t have anything in my life together…)
Began practicing yoga
I’ve mentioned before on the blog how I’ve really grown to love yoga over the past few months, and I’m excited that I finally found a new studio in Shanghai to go to! Yoga really helps me stay calm and just feels so good!
Moved to China
Of COURSE this is something I’ve done right! Moving to China has had it’s ups and downs but I’m grateful that I get to travel and do what I love everyday.
This is actually a picture I am in. Can you spot me? (Far left top row). This was for the traditional Chinese festival dance. I can’t explain the costume so don’t even ask. Ha!
Got a tattoo (or two)
Some people have moral objections to tattoos, but I’m so glad that I have two that I hold dear to my heart. I especially love the one on my back because when people ask me about it, I can share my faith in a non-judgmental way.
Because I don’t want wrinkles, do you? #Paranoid
Became a feminist
If you had asked me in college if I was a feminist, I would have given you a weird glance and avoided the questions (I’m a PEOPLE-IST, I always used to say). Since I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized the importance of living my life championing for the underdogs, including women. Being a feminist doesn’t mean women are better than men, it’s about being treated as equals.
Broke up with Mr. Wrong
Ladies, we’ve all been there. Dated a guy who just wasn’t right for us. What I learned from it? How it feels to be in a controlling, unsafe relationship and how I never want to feel like that again. I am now aware of the red flags and will do anything necessary to avoid them.
Broke up with Mr. Right
Yup, you read that right. I once dated a guy (in High School, nonetheless), who was (and is!) truly a wonderful, caring person. Although I know that ultimately that relationship wasn’t the right fit, I can truly say I know what it’s like to be in a healthy relationship and continue to aspire for that.
Started a blog
I mean, you think I could leave my blog out? Never! I’ve already shared what blogging means to me, but I’m forever grateful for this little outlet and the connections I’ve made.
Forgave my brother
My brother and I have had a rocky relationship over the past few years, and this summer we were able to make amends and move our relationship into a healthy, functional level. Part of that included that need to forgive him for things he’d done to me in the past. Forgiveness=healing.
Stayed in touch with my high school friends
My high school squad (8 gals) and I talk almost everyday, even with three of us living abroad. There’s something really special about having friends who have known you for YEARS and can call you out on your sh!t.
My best friend since fifth grade, Sarah!
I just passed my one year anniversary for living alone and I have to say, now I love it. Last year I used to beg friends to come over and blast music so I wouldn’t have to be alone. Yikes. Now I enjoy having friends over but also like to spend time alone, reading or watching TV. It feels amazing to have my own space, and now I don’t know how I’ll be able to live with roommates again! Ha!
My junior year of college, I started going to counseling. It has been so helpful to me to have someone non-biased help me make decisions as well as just listen to my problems. I see someone in Shanghai too which is expensive, but worth every penny.
Even if you’ve never struggled with “mental health issues”, I think it’s VERY healthy and totally rewarding to go to counseling. It’s an investment in yourself and is well worth it. If you’ve been considering it, this is your official nudge 🙂
Worked at an amusement park
I worked at Cedar Point and met lifelong friends there (seriously). Also, working at an amusement park has offered me lots of funny stories to share, and also showed me how awesome and awful people can really be. #RollerCoasterNerdforLife
Joined a sorority
Eventually I’ll get my life together and write a whole blog post about this, but joining a sorority made my collegiate experience amazing. I met so many wonderful people, learned awesome leadership skills, and am not part of a lifelong group with girls that share a lot of things in common with me. Don’t judge it unless you were in it! 😉
Learned how to fill in my brows
If you haven’t learned how, just go to Sephora and ask for help. Life changing, I tell you!
What are some things you’ve “done right?” in your life so far?